Advice

It's all new

Anonymous — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 06:24:42 GMT

I'm newly out of the closet and I'm very interested in BiGALA. I'm an MSU senior graduating in May. I'm not sure how to get involved. Do I just go to the meetings on wed. nights at 7?

I'm sufficating

Anonymous — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 01:45:48 GMT

I've totally had enough of trying to live up to the expectations of the church I belong to. I'm gay, and people in my church degrade anyone who does not live a hetrosexual life style. Really, all I have to hold on to biblically is Matthew 19:12. I came out of the closet 24 years ago, and I'm tired of people not understanding what that means. I've had enough sledge hammers for one life time. Lets just say I don't want to be one to fight my identity for the rest of my life. The more I except myself for who I am, the more weight falls off my shoulders. I am sort of out here by myself. I really have no gay friends in this area. I'm originally from California. I'm a student at MSU, and would like to build a support network. What should I do?

Respectfulness

d.yaw — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 02:48:33 GMT

Hey everyone, I just want to remind everyone that although we have differing views, we need to stay respectful of others while posting on the forums. Please keep your words nice or you will not be allowed to post. Thanks! Dani

Looking for advice or helpful thoughts

Anonymous — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:45:36 GMT

Hi, maybe you can help me or at least lend a unbiased ear. I am gay and have known for a while. I have not come out to anyone and frankly my biggest fear is someone finding out. I have a real strong family base (except with my dad) and we seem to always be there for each other, but they have on many occasions expressed their feelings about homosexuality. Quoting my mother " Seeing two guys kissing creeps me out! It is just disgusting!" or my brother " When two girls kiss, it is so hot! When two guys kiss, it's nasty." And my cousin(s) aren't any better. The running joke whenever we are together or playing a game online together is whoever is doing poorly, or not playing the way they want is "gay" and it bothers me. Part of me wants to fit in so bad and yet, there is a part of me that wants to tell them to shove it, grab the first guy I meet and kiss him. Granted with my luck I would be brought up on charges of stupidity and branded with a restraining order. If you were to ask me what is the first thing I think about doing with a guy, my answer would be curling up together on a couch and just feeling his arms warp around me as we watch TV or read. Sadly, I guess I will probably never get anywhere waiting for a white knight to come sweep me off my feet. I consider myself very tradition and conservative. I've never had 1 boyfriend let alone any type of relationship. I'm 26 years old and I sometimes look at my life and see the Drew Barrymore movie Never Been Kissed playing out before my eyes, all the while thinking 'That is going to be me, that is going to be me.' Or maybe it is like the Forty Year Old Virgin, but that is way to depressing to think about. The last thing I want is some random hook-up, believe me! Well, I know I have wasted a lot of your time, so I'll just say adios and thanks in advance for any advice offered. ~Shy Guy

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